Deep Connection

Relationships are all about connection. Sometimes we have busy lives, mismatched libidos or even conflict that steps between us. Our emotions play an enormous part of our ability to connect with our partners. Few of our partners are out to cause us emotional or physical harm. If you are convinced that your partner isn’t looking out for your best interest, get out!

Best Friends

Be your partner’s best friend! The stronger the connection that you have, the stronger the relationship and sex will be. This absolutely must come first and foremost. If your relationship cannot be the primary relationship in your life, you will never be able to feel the complete fulfillment of intimacy and closeness. Ensure that you both feel like you have the balance you both need. Although that balance will ebb and flow, the delicate equilibrium will ensure that neither of you gets resentful toward the other. If you begin to feel like something is getting off balance, communicate and get things back on track. In fact, reading this blog might be the indicator that an imbalance was happening. I am sure by following an FLR and everything that comes with it you will see the benefits.

Play

Play is very important. You are either working or you are playing. If your relationship doesn’t feel like play then it feels like work. If it doesn’t feel like work then it feels like play. Playfully tease each other both in and out of the bedroom. A couple that plays together stays together. We need to remember the early relationship feeling. It’s hard with kids, work, life but this can be achieved. You can go back to it but the wives/girlfriends we must take control.

Meet Physical Needs

Physical needs are so very important. I will be the first to say that sometimes I don’t want sex but I realize that sex would make life easier and less stressful - especially for the husbands. This could mean anything from allowing him to go down on me, giving a handjob (no relief), letting him rub my feet, or even just some cuddling and physical closeness. Physical needs are very unspecific. Remember as women our vagina should not have our husbands penis always. They must learn to earn it, the same way blowjobs are a treat. I never was a fan of blowjobs especially when the man has an average or more so, a small penis. So this is a big benefit now that I set the rules, but be clear and set it as a rule. Your husband must be aware of it. Physical needs does not mean our pussy. They must work for it and feel like they are competing. In our relationship we have so many options for physical intimacy and we are always open to adding new ones that give us the feelings of physical intimacy. He may have his preferences and I am sure that you do too but some sort of physical attention is better than no attention. This is important. If you aren’t experiencing some sort of sexual attention with each other at least three times a week, I implore you to consider making your relationship a greater priority. Again, it should not and does not have to be you giving up entirely for intercourse sex. It’s any of the above or whatever you prefer. If you are in a rut, you may feel like you don’t need more contact but I don’t feel like you can sustain a healthy relationship without a strong physical connection. Long distance relationships are especially challenging so make sure you do your best with skype sessions and other methods to keep that physical connection alive.

Communication

You’ve heard it before and you will hear it again. Communication is key. If you don’t feel like you have open communication, you really need to work on it. An FLR and orgasm control opened up many new conversations for us and allowed us to connect at a much deeper level. We are more connected and have reignited our romance. I may not get the New Relationship Feeling from my husband’s small penis, I find that elsewhere, but he can give some aspect of the New Relationship Feeling romantically when being locked. My husband feels he can now show his emotions and I can freely tell him what needs to happen. Learn about sex from his perspective as he learns about being on the submissive end of sex. I guarantee that it will spark meaningful and compelling conversation. Stretching your sexual boundaries and trying new exciting things cannot be possible without opening yourself up emotionally.

Communication between husband and wife can help also as a safeguard against misunderstandings. When you share perspectives, pasts, desires and opinions with each other openly, your both better able to understand each other. Your husband allows his inner emotions to be trusted to you as the authoritative role. It ensures that their actions, words and thoughts then don’t come as surprise to you. Before we followed this dynamic, we needed to preempt what we were thinking.

Respect

A person who is willing to be open and vulnerable with their feelings, thoughts and past is someone you can respect. Following and FLR and chastity will make you respect your husband more. This should ease all my readers worries of the negative connotation they assign to a small plastic/metal device. Your partner’s emotional vulnerability will give you incite into their way of thinking and what motivates them. It may give you a reason to respect their actions, words, experiences and strengths. My husband is more man than ever. I don’t value his small penis as much as he does, I value his actions and the way he cares for me and the family. I value that when I suggest to have him locked, he trust me enough to take control of his most cherished tool that holds him back in many ways. That’s a real man and this brings to like the “worship the mother-in-law” state which if you haven’t already read about, see my other blogs. Your husband will submit to all your decision making.

Orgasm Control

Yes, I control my husbands orgasms. No I don’t do it to be mean or controlling. I do it because it works! I love him and I want us to experience the best parts of each other for us and our family. I lock him so no accidents happen. Again this is not me being mean or controlling, but kind and helping. There are so many changes that men go through when they experience an orgasm. Many of them are great but some of them influence the way that we are able to connect in a meaningful way. We have all kinds of wonderful sex but he is typically limited to one orgasm every week or other week depending on circumstances. No masturbation by himself although we do masturbate together sometimes. He is getting better with his self control although we’ve decided that he will never be 100% because the male drive is simply too strong. This was especially the case in the beginning. We must understand this is a big factor for making this work in the early days as I described in my other blogs. We use a device to help us control his urges. Many women for their own reasons are uncomfortable with this, yet it’s a way they can help their man. We’ve built a great level of trust and he knows that he must ask permission before ejaculating. He must associate pleasure as only coming from his wife, which is why I am against him masturbating.

If you decide to move forward and give it a go, you can start out in your house for a couple hours. If you find the benefits to be relationship-altering as I have, you may want to have him wear it for a few days at a time. If not, simply stop it and go back to the honest system. Many women who are hesitant to cage their man, seem to forget they can go back to not using a cage. But from those who reach out, they choose to keep it and their husbands embrace it. The nice thing about a cage is that it is worn beneath his clothes and nobody needs to know aside from you and him. You might be surprised if you knew what kinds of men were wearing them. From messages I got by many women there husbands are police officers, builders, corporate goers, to your Uber driver, these men all wear chastity devices for their partner. I’ve received messages from all types and I realize that this truly is something that has the potential to benefit every relationship. Orgasm control is gaining popularity as more women learn about the benefits of changing male orgasm patterns to get the best out of their fella.

Build Trust

Defensive walls do not lead to trust. Trust is extremely important in any relationship as it ensures reliability, openness and true connection between two people. Research shows that trust is extremely important in a relationship as it ensures effective engagement between you and your husband. And if your husband is vulnerable and open while communicating with you, you will be able to trust them more easily. Continuous communication can help enhance a marriage over time.

To wrap this up ladies, following a FLR and a strict orgasm control routine builds a deeper connection between you and your husbands. If you are a man and reading this, consider the above but from the perspective of a woman and why this is a game changer in improving or fixing relationships of all types. I also posted a blog this month on how my best friend got her husband into an FLR and chastity.